"Whenever you view the sin of another against you as a greater problem than your own sin, you will tend to seek Christ as your therapist more than you seek him as your saviour.
None of us wants to think that we are as bad off as the gospel says we are! We prefer to think that we just need some minor theological tweaking of more faithful church attendance to function as god intended. Yet the gospel says that no system or activity can provide what we need. Our sin is so great that only christs work on the cross can rescue us
Only when you accept the bad news of the gospel does the good news make any sense. The grace, restoration, reconciliation, forgiveness, mercy, patience, power, healing and hope of the gospel are for sinners. They are only meaningful to you if you admit that you have the disease and realise that it is terminal."
Lane & Tripp, How people change