"The images we tend to celebrate when considering community (certainly in western culture) are family (which also means a lot of things), belonging, compassion, care, and thoughtfulness. Obviously, these are noble and biblical ideas. But on their own, they create an unbalanced environment, and they will not appeal to guys who see other values in community, such as order, camaraderie, mission, teamwork, and brotherhood."
Joel Virgo, Men: Bucking the trend pt 2 (read here)